At some point, your child will fail at something and face hang-ups like rejection that make them feel bad.
While the raw feelings that come with failure are natural, it’s important your child embrace them, for these experiences will help them become resilient and persistent.
The more your child can bounce back after a tumble, the more equipped they’ll be in the face of more complex problems and adversity. Each lesson in failure is an opportunity to reflect, problem-solve, and try again.
Here’s a simple three-step approach for guiding your child through failure, and helping them see mistakes as learning opportunities:
1. Let failure happen. If your child is young, give them low-stakes tasks they can build experience around.
2. Embrace failure — and celebrate it. Show your child failure is acceptable in your household. This includes sharing mistakes that you make as an adult!
3. Discuss failure after it occurs. Ask your child what went wrong, how it made them feel, and what they would change or do differently next time.
You can supplement these teachable moments with reading materials.
For its 100th anniversary, Scholastic spoke with experts to identify a set of tips, articles, and books that make starting a conversation with your child about failure easier. These resources are part of a broader initiative, called the Scholastic Bookshelf, created for Instagram to raise awareness around contemporary issues affecting children today.
The following resources will enlighten your child’s understanding of failure as a key component of success and support them on their path to personal growth.