Tattle Tales and Worry Warts
As children struggle to figure out where they fit in, telling on classmates can become a problem. Tattling can be a form of revenge or a cry for help if a child hasn’t been able to resolve a conflict with peers. Some tattling is a ploy for attention. A child sees something going on in the classroom and reports it to the teacher — even if the incident doesn’t involve her. Though prevalent throughout early elementary school, tattling usually subsides by the 3rd grade, when children are a bit more mature. After that, kids still prone to divulging information will be labeled and teased — a much worse consequence.
Teachers and experts say the 2nd grade classroom is quieter than the 1st. Most 2nd graders know the difference between appropriate and inappropriate behavior; if a child is still disruptive, testing is recommended.
Because learning happens at different rates, children are frequently grouped by ability (for example, chapter book readers in one group and non-chapter book readers in another). That means it’s no secret to a child where he or she stacks up. A more advanced student may notice a classmate practicing letters she remembers learning in kindergarten. Other students may be painfully aware that they don’t read as well as their classmates do.
A good 2nd grade teacher finds ways for each student to shine and reminds the class that everyone needs help with different things. Still, parents may notice a loss of self-confidence during 2nd grade. Finding other outlets where a child can experience success is one way to help. Sports, music, and art are all areas to explore.
Analyzing and Worrying
Besides becoming more self-aware, 2nd graders are also more attuned to the world around them. It’s not unusual for 7 year olds to be fearful of terrorism, kidnapping, plane crashes, and losing a parent. But parents are often surprised when these concerns surface.
Because they’re looking to the adults in their lives for coping strategies, parents need to be sensitive to their child’s needs. Giving your child the reassurance she needs — and helping her find areas where she can shine — will help your 7 year old keep a sunny outlook on the world.