What you say and how you say it continue to be important throughout these first weeks and beyond. Inviting parents to stay in the classroom for a while is an important part of helping to ease their child's transition and separation. Hearing the explanation from you can really make a difference to a parent: "Some children need a little extra support these first days, so if you're able to stay awhile before you go to work, I know your child will feel more comfortable here." And when parents do leave, children will also need to hear from you that you will take care of them until their parents return.
In regard to tears, clinging to Mom's or Dad's clothing, or very downcast expressions, parents will be relieved to hear that their child's behavior isn't surprising or unusual. "Children act this way because it's really, really hard to say goodbye to someone you love." Young children, who may not understand what they're feeling or why, also need to hear that it's okay to feel sad and that they can feel free to say "I miss my mom." Sharing those feelings with you means they're on their way to coping with one of life's most common yet difficult experiences.
When children realize you will listen with the same attention and focus you give to adults, they will receive an important message: "What you have to say is serious and important and interests me."
Each day provides endless opportunities for children to explore and talk about their feelings and interests - their families, what animals eat, how babies are born, what makes puddles dry up. Talk flows, offering teachers who listen carefully the chance to reap a rich harvest of children's far-ranging ideas.
Talking and listening are the means through which teachers and children share experiences and interests - all day and all year long. They are also the scaffolds upon which a caring classroom community is built. What you say and how you say it can contribute greatly to an environment that fosters emerging language and literacy.