锘縒hat do you think of these two bridesmaid dresses

Were expenses discussed at all when you asked them? I never seen the answer as to who is responsible for bringing this up, but at some point it does need to be addressed.

This has gotten way too complicated, especially since my understanding is that in the UK, the bride does buy the dresses. If I were you, I pick one of the dresses (I personally like the second one because more body types can wear it), talk to each girl individually, explain that you purchasing this dress but the bridesmaids are responsible for their hotel. Then tell each girl that if this becomes a financial problem for her, you understand if she can do it.

If the hotel is that big a deal, they can all share the same room. But you need to get rid of this bridesmaid drama, even if you left with only one person.

If the people wearing and paying for the dresses don like them, keep looking. Consider their input and consider their importance to you, why you chose them in the first place. Do you really want to stick your friends in uncomfortable, unflattering dresses? They will only resent you and that is the memory they will take away from your wedding.

I think those dresses look fine, but bottom line is that your bridesmaids don;t like them. I might even try them on and decide i don like them also.

I agree they shouldn have to pay for their dresses. Just because it is traditional to pass this wedding expense onto your bridesmaids doesn make it right. If you can afford the dresses then just don have bridesmaids.

At this point I would just tell my friends to wear what they want, could be something they already own and save the friendship, cut the drama.

Those dresses are both pretty. It is doubtful they can be worn again as they do look very bridesmaidy. Shiny satin is a definite tip-off that you are wearing a bridesmaid dress. But, that doesn matter. When one agrees to be a bridesmaid, one agrees to wear a dress of the bride choosing. It is irrelevant whether one likes it or not. Your girls need to button their lips and suck it up and wear the dang dress!

You are being very generous in paying their hotel bills. They need to wear the dress you chosen. Just tell them which one you picked and don discuss it further. I get the feeling you are being TOO nice to them and they are trampling on you because of it.

I think they are both lovely. If your bridesmaids dont like them and are being picky then perhaps you should think about replacing them as attendants.

We got married in June 09 and we paid for everything, that way our bridesmaids and attendants could not turn up their noses at what we picked.

I never understand the practise of asking someone to be a bridesmaid and then telling them they have to pay for the privilege of being one.

I know that sometimes it works that way but I would never have the nerve.

I dont know what to suggest, I suppose you should pay for the dresses and let the girls pay for the hotel that way they have to wear what you buy.

Best of luck.

Neither of the dresses are horrible, but I do prefer the purple one over the pink one. If the bridesmaids don like the dresses, tell them to get over it. It not their wedding, but yours. After the wedding they won ever have to wear the dresses again, and if they are buying them then they can even sell the dresses to make a little money. If they are going to be difficult and complain about the dresses then tell them you will buy the dress (the one you like more without their input) and make them pay for the lodging prices.

I was in my friend aunt wedding and HATED the dress. It was hideous. Everyone disliked the dresses, including her own daughter and niece (my friend). We voiced our opinions about the dresses, but never once said we weren going to wear them or made a big deal out of it. We sucked it up and wore the dresses and then my friend and I sold our dresses at a yard sale the next summer. We did keep our shoes and slips though, which we liked.

That purple dress is so cute! I wish that my sister-in-law would have given a choice between two dresses when she got married (I was a bridesmaid). I spent $100 on a dress that I don even like, doesn fit anymore, and I never wear again.

I think you have to make the decision. Not be a bridezilla about it, of course, but don be afraid to put your foot down! If you willing to compromise further, though, allow them to choose one of those colors and dresses that suit them in their taste. I seen a lot of that done in weddings and I always admired that!

These are 2 very different styles.

Personally I like the style of the first one better, I think this dress is going to be more comfortable and forgiving for any bustier or bigger girls you have. It is also a more practical Style for a "Wear again" dress

The other one I think is going to be less forgiving and not as friendly to a variety of body types.

Its great that you want something wear again for your girls, however there isn't really many circumstances out there for a dress that shade of purple, or the strapless in that shade of pink. I highly doubt I would wear a purple dress again if it were me, and I am in a situation where I can have functions to wear dresses like that. [url=http://www.iodress.com]cheap flower girl dresses[/url]

This is sooo cool! It's too late for me to do this for this year. But next year, it's on the schedule!

Loved this. How fun. Leave it to you, Shari, to come up with an ultra-creative way to pull parents and kid into school after hours. Bet everyone learned a lot!