What to Expect When You're Adopting
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Adopting from Another Culture
Even if your child doesn’t show interest, incorporate his birth culture into your family through art, books, and more in your home. It’s important that you have your own love and appreciation for his cultural background.
If strangers approach you and make insensitive comments — “How much did she cost?” or “Too bad you couldn’t have one of your own” — feel free to educate them, or not. If your child is old enough to understand, openly discuss the incident with her when you get home, and let her talk about how it made her feel.
For Every Adopting Family
- Join groups (online or in person) of other families like yours to find support and a sense of belonging for you and your child.
- Share your child’s birth and adoption story with her freely and right away, even if she’s too young to understand at first. That way, as she gets older, you’ll feel more comfortable telling it.
- Keep in mind that not every issue your child has will be adoption-related. He may act up because he’s 13 and that’s what kids do at 13!
For more insight, visit AdoptiveFamilies.com and Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge.
Source: Emily Rosen, MSW, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker, adoption specialist, and the founder of Adopt-Consult.com.