Toddler Wants to Sleep in Parents' Bed
Q: My wife and I have a 2-year-old daughter who likes to crawl into our bed in the middle of the night. She's not scared. I think it's a habit from when my wife let her sleep in our bed when she was younger. We try to put her back into her bed but she starts crying. Should we continue to do this or should we let her sleep with us? I just don't want her to be 10 years old and still crawling into our bed. Is it a phase or should we nip this in the bud now?
A: It sure is warmer and feels safer to be sleeping snuggled right up against Mama and Papa in bed. This is also something that your little one got very used to doing. If you are sure that this is something you really want to change, it will take quite a bit of time and persistence, since your daughter is so happy and so used to the arrangement of sleeping with you.
When she comes toward your bed, one of you should say in a low, gentle voice (as you carry her gently back to her bed), "We need you to sleep in your own special bed, lovey." Sing soothingly, "Time to sleep in your own little bed now. Time to go nighty-night in your own little bed." Be sure to use her name